Do want your marriage
destroyed? Obviously, no!
All things been equal
,no normal person get married with the
hope of getting divorced latter.There are however some set of belief that is
capable of destroying any marriage.I called them the five lies that can wreck
your marriage.Here are they:
1.I have married the
wrong person: This is the believe of a lot of people when they enter into
what seems like irreconcilable differences. The truth is marrying the “right
person” does not insure that you will have a good marriage According to Zig
Ziglar, it’s possible you did marry the wrong person. However, if you treat the wrong person like
the right person, you could end up having married the right person after
all. On the other hand, if you marry the
right person and treat that person wrong, you certainly will have ended up
marrying the wrong person. It is far
more important to be the right kind of person, than to marry the right kind of
person. In short, whether you’ve married
the right or wrong person is primarily up to you.”
If you make yourself the right person you will hardly
complain of marrying the wrong person!
2.I don’t love my
mate anymore: Here is another big
lie. If you accept and subscribe to it, your marriage may end abruptly. You
need to understand that love is not always a feeling, love is a decision. Love is a commitment. The romantic feelings that you had when you
dated and when you first got married, they may not be as strong at all
times. It is not the feelings that get
us through the battles of life; it is the commitment to love. If you want to love your mate forget all the
wrongs and then decide to love!
3.My spouse and I are
incompatible: There is no couple that is 100% compatible. It is your major responsibility
to work things out. God joins
together two flawed people and expect them to complement each other.
4.My marriage is
hopeless: It is a lie,don’t believe it. No matter what has happened, that
marriage is not hopeless once YOU are not hopeless. If you ever surrender to
hopelessness the marriage is destroyed!
5.Divorce cannot
affect my children: Whatever your children's age - because even adult
children are affected - the impact of a divorce can be one of the most
life-changing and distressing things that will happen to a child. If you
think divorce has no effect on your kids you are a joker! Here are some
research findings you should go through before you opt out of that marriage
+ Children who experienced their
parents' divorce view premarital sex and cohabitation more favorably
+ Children from divorced homes
suffer academically. They experience high levels of behavioral problems. Their
grades suffer, and they are less likely to graduate from high school
+ Kids whose parents divorce are
substantially more likely to be incarcerated for committing a crime as a
juvenile
+ Teens from divorced homes are
much more likely to engage in drug and alcohol use, as well as sexual
intercourse than are those from intact families
+Children from divorced homes
experience illness more frequently and recover from sickness more slowly.They
are also more likely to suffer child abuse
+ Children of divorced parents
suffer more frequently from symptoms of psychological distress. And
the emotional scars of divorce last into adulthood.
NB.Please,bear it in mind that no matter what has happen you can still Save Your Marriage !